This is a throwback for sure (remember when Andre Agassi had hair!)…but is it still true? We could debate this idea for eons, but when all is said and done, the bottom line is that our image plays a powerful roll in how we interact with others. My guess is that most of you reading this would really like to create a positive and professional image whether you are CEO of a large corporation or CEO of your home.
With that in mind, if you want to be perceived as a powerful communicator, here are 3 key suggestions:
1. Be clear. Ambiguity may have it’s place in poetry or novels, but for interpersonal communication ambiguity leads to mis-understandings. If you want something accomplished, say it in terms that are clear and definite. Don’t beat around the bush.
Unclear: “I could sure use some help around here.”
Clear: “Please clear the table, put the dishes in the dishwasher and take out the trash.”
Ask: How can I make my conversation clearer?
2. Be concise. There’s nothing worse that someone who rambles on and on and on and on and… well, you get the picture. Sometimes we ramble because we are nervous about getting an answer we don’t want. Just spit it out.
Rambling: “If it’s possible, and you’re not too busy, and I know you really have a lot to do, but I could really use your help, if you could just take a sec and look at this project and see if I’m on the right track, because it’s the first time I’ve done anything like this, if it’s not too much trouble.”
Concise: “Do you have 5 minutes? There’s a project I’d like to get your input on.”
Ask: How can I be more concise?
3. Be committed. Don’t hedge. A hedge, according to Phyllis Mindell, a recognized expert on women and language, is when you “hide behind words, refuse to commit oneself.” Women tend to do this more than men. These words don’t add meaning, they just add to the sentence – in an effort to soften the sentence. When you commit to clear, concise communication, you will be able to omit these.
Hedging: “Well, I would really like us to start the meeting at 8:00am, if it’s not too inconvenient for everyone.”
Committed: “The meeting starts at 8:00am, and I expect everyone to attend.
Ask: What words can I omit and still retain the meaning?
It’s not easy to speak with clarity and intention. I want to encourage you to put these 3 ideas into practice and see if you get better results. I know you will enjoy creating a positive, professional communication image.
This is Day 4 of 31 Days of Powerful Communication Skills for Women. You can read all of my #31Days posts here. And check out The Nester’s #Write31Days blog for other great 31 day series.
Question: What do you think about this? Do you believe it will work? Have you tried any of these before and if so, what were your results? I’d love your feedback! You can comment below.
These are all really good reminders for me. I think that when I’m acting in fear, I often all into some of the bad habits you described. These are excellent reminders! Thank you 🙂