What Obstacle?

Living in the Opportunity Mindset

I heard a story on NPR yesterday about a new restaurant that just opened. It’s seaside and diners are surrounded by date palms, and greenery. It serves mediterranean cuisine in a cultured and upscale environment. Sounds like a surefire winner – right?  There’s just one thing that might cause you to pause. This restaurant is in LIBYA!

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I know. Crazy! In the middle of a civil war, dreamer Abdelmuttaleb Twigiri  opened his restaurant. He put it this way to Morning Edition host Renee Montagne, “people need places like this “to change the mood, the way of life. People want to go out. They want to dress up, they need to live.”

That’s what I call living in the Opportunity Mindset.  If ever there was a reason for not pursuing your dream, I’d say the obstacle of a civil war ranks pretty high up on the list.

Your obstacles most likely look different. I find obstacles usually fall into 3 categories.

  1.  Lack
    • Lack of education.
    • Lack of position.
    • Lack of authority.
    • Lack of resources.
    • Lack of skills.
    • Lack of freedom (rules & regulations can create this).
  2. Fear
    • Fear of success.
    • Fear of loss.
    • Fear of failure.
    • Fear of the opinion of others.
    • Fear of change.
    • Fear of the outcome.
  3. Yourself (This is the hardest to overcome by the way.)
    • Your personality.
    • Your habits.
    • Your friends.
    • Your family.
    • Your circumstances.
    • Your vision, hopes and dreams.

Where do your obstacles come from?

What’s keeping you from living in the Opportunity Mindset?

As you think of your own obstacles, I’d challenge you to think of 1 thing you can turn into an opportunity. Some quick suggestions for turning obstacles into opportunity…

  1. The first step is to assess your situation. Look at all your resources, good and bad, and make a simple list.
  2. Pick one thing from your positive side that you can do immediately. Like today.
  3. Take action! Do it. Pick up the phone. Visit that website. Write that first chapter.
  4. Enjoy the lift this positive action will give you.

You’re on your way to living in the Opportunity Mindset!

Want to hear more? I have the very high privilege of being interviewed today by Claire Diaz Ortiz for her Work by Design Summit.  Click here to enjoy the interview!

It was Guilt Free and Painless

3 Actions that made January my Best Ever!

I had 2 big goals to get the year started off right. I wanted to get my website updated and reflective of my focus on full time speaking, and I wanted to get my Master Bedroom/Office cleared out of all the stacks of stuff that had built up so it was a place I enjoyed being.

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January is almost over, and I didn’t quite finish what I started.

But, here’s the good thing. It’s turning out even BETTER than I had planned!

Starting with the clearing out  — I decluttered extensively and filled my car twice with trips to the Goodwill. Win! The storage closet in which I was planning to store the out of season leftovers, fell down into the clothes closet below. I know. Don’t ask.

But, the positive result will be even better storage once my husband completes the repair project. So let’s call that a not quite checked off the list but well on it’s way to completion success!

If you want to declutter too, may I suggest my friend Kathi Lipp’s easy to read and even easier to put into practice book, Clutter Free. You’ll love it and it will help you declutter your life!

Regarding the second part of my goals…here’s where it gets interesting…

As I was working on the content to be added to my website, I knew I needed video of me speaking, testimonials, information about my programs and an updated about me page. I wanted it to look like a speaker’s site, not a blogger/podcasters site.

I found some super smart people to help me with the technical aspects of this, and I began researching sites of some of my favorite National Speakers Association speakers to see what ideas I could steal borrow and change to make my own. 🙂

There are some awesome people out there to emulate! People like Neen James and Connie Podesta and Laura Stack and Tami Evans. And lots more incredible women who are really dominating in the public speaking space.

In the course of my research, I was drilling down to make sure my message was crystal clear on every level. I reached out to Neen James, who is known for her dynamic and fun delivery combined with her stellar content. I had seen her speak this past July at the NSA Convention, and was very intrigued with how she had packaged and delivered her message.

She was so helpful! She basically told me what I had come up with was no good and not unique at all. Boring. Her magic words were, Christy, I looked at your site, and I can’t book you from what you are telling me there. I don’t know what you offer.

Yikes! Just what I needed to hear. (Actually, I thought my site was shaping up nicely! So how awesome to get that kind of honest and relevant feedback!)

So in the past 2 weeks, I’ve gotten to work drilling down to the essence of Christy. Neen asked me, What have you put your 10,000 hours into Christy? What lessons have you learned over and over and over in your life that you can share with your audience? 

I’m still working on teasing it all out, but I am so close! And I’m so excited! Because instead of just being a “High Energy Motivational Speaker who teaches you how to get along and connect” I’m going to be framing it in a personal and more meaningful way that will be much more interesting and unique.

Which means YOU will be getting better content because I’ll be filtering it in a more effective way.

Here’s what I’ve learned from this whole experience. Maybe they will help you too!

  1. Even if you don’t know exactly where it’s going to end up, get started getting busy on what you want to do.  The de-cluttering project revealed the storage problem. Had I waited, there would still be piles everywhere and the closet would still be a problem! If I hadn’t begun the research, I would never have seen the huge gaping holes in my website/speaking project.
  2. Reach out for help. I knew I couldn’t deal with all the technical changes I’ll be needing in the course of changing my website. I found experts in those areas to help me. That even relates to me reaching out to Neen. (I didn’t know her personally before.)
  3. Be willing to look at the same things differently. You know I’ve been speaking on the topics of communication skills, customer service, and personality styles for almost 20 years. This month, I’ve looked at my body of work in a whole new way, and I’m coming out the other end the better for it.

What about you? How did your January go? Are you still on track to make this your Best Year Ever? I hope so.  Let me know in the comments below, or comment on FB.

3 Steps to Create a Positive Environment

You have more power than you think

This morning was a mess. We got up late (oh where is my Miracle Morning when I need it!), my husband had to leave early, the kids were arguing about their breakfast and the dog had an accident in the Living Room. Seriously.

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Nothing spirals downward faster than a negative environment. I knew I needed to fix this situation, and fast!

Here are the 3 things I did. Maybe they will work for you the next time you hit a rough patch.

  1. Take a deep breath and assess the situation. What can I change? What is non-negotiable? I stepped back and saw the main things I needed were to get myself dressed, the kids fed and the dog put in the backyard. I also saw that the dark house filled with the noises of anxiety were not helping.
  2. Do what you can do and delegate the rest.  I put on some fun music and turned on all the lights. Our surroundings can affect our behavior more than you know. The lights and music helped lighten the tone. I delegated the dog and her “issues” to my daughter and hustled back to get dressed and throw my makeup in a bag – I could finish in the car before my meeting. I had my son pull out the eggs and cheese so I could whip up their breakfast after I got dressed.
  3. Focus on the good and enjoy the journey. I did a quick mind re-set while I was getting dressed. I reminded myself that for so many years I had longed for children with a desperate longing…in other words…I asked for this! 🙂  I said a prayer of thanks for my kids. I smiled. Yup. A physical smile made me giggle. And when I came back into the kitchen, I sang along to the music while I made the eggs. I forced myself to change my attitude. I know a happy heart attitude is contagious.

I’d love to tell you my kids started dancing and singing with me and happily gobbled up their breakfasts with words of gratitude on their lips.  That’s not actually what happened.

They were still a bit grumpy. But my attitude was better, so there was less tension and I enjoyed the rest of our time together before school much more. Plus I told myself, often it’s what is caught, more than what is taught that sinks in.

So when they think of their Mama today (if they think of me at all!) it will be with the happy smile and kiss that I left them with rather than the surly frustrated face of the earlier morning.

And I’ll call that a win.

How about you? What do you do to shift the momentum when things start deteriorating around you? I’d love you to share! Just leave a comment below.

Love ya!

Christy 🙂

 

The Secret to Getting Supercharged

Sometimes the simplest solutions are the easiest. I’m learning that when it comes to your health and your overall performance, everything is better when you get enough sleep.

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Today I’m writing over at A News Cafe, Northern California’s premier news magazine. I’m writing on how it’s simpler to get started on your resolutions when you do one basic thing…get enough sleep!

To read the article, click here.

Here’s to getting supercharged in 2016 together!

Love ya,

Christy 🙂

Join me at A News Cafe!

Merry Christmas!

As I was thinking of what makes this holiday so very special, 4 things came to mind.

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Family, friends, food and faith.

Today as we celebrate the birth of Jesus, I hope you will be spending time with your favorite family and friends.  I hope your tummy will be full of the yummiest food of the season.

But most of all, I pray you will find faith in the perfect God-man, Jesus Christ.  And that in the midst of your gift giving, laughter and fun, that your heart will be drawn to the only one born to bring lasting and eternal peace.

Peace between our frail, flawed humanity and a perfect God. Peace made possible by the baby born in the stable. Peace paid for by His perfect life given as a sacrifice. For you. For me. Peace.

Merry Christmas!